I was so afraid that I feared he may have crossed a line he shouldnt have. She said hes not used to other people I broke up with her. Animals get between human relationships. Our four year old daughter has been bitten four times leaving bleeding wounds each time. A house that reeks of dog & destroyed furniture instead of a family and a lovely home. He can be bad, and I know that, but I dont know what to do anymore. Hope you make a wise decision & whichever path you choose leads you to happiness. Make sure you use a metal gate. Are you sure its just fur rather than lack of feeling important to youmore than an animal? Consult a veterinarian: Meet your veterinarian right away and seek advice and take necessary actions. Not a word to me. He is resentful towards me since I have tried to work with him on discipline. It wasnt a matter of loving an animal, it was that he made me feel he was in love with the dog and it broke my heart over and over again. We both have dogs but they were ours before getting married. Then she ends up telling me that her dog is depressed and needs another doganother bulldog! We have to take my car everywhere because his is so full of hair. Maybe you could call Caesar Milan! Our older dog is a big rottweiler. I always had a vision of how my life was going to turn out, what my home was going to be like, how it was going to look, smell, etc. Its made me realize that Im not alone and that I dont have to see my boyfriends dog like a human the way he does. Ie. Our dogs sleep on the couch, despite repeated promises, before buying a new couch, that they wouldnt. They would get along great! Maybe I should just spray all the floors in the house. Like many people here I have always been a huge animal lover. For the most part, my partner is a wonderful and loving person. Why? not when Im being treated as beneath them! The kids, 3. Dog stays off the furniture, gets her own doggie bed for the bedroom, and he sweeps everyday. I really like this girl a lot, and I could see myself marrying her. I super highly recommend going to training classes at a reputable place, such as the Humane Society (if there is one in your area). Giving priority to the dog over the husband. But NOW hes saying he doesnt want her in the room at all. Shes cute but not the small dog I wanted. I really do hate this dog now. I keep joking saying I want to get rid of her and he hows back hell get rid of me but Im partially not joking. As stated before I just believe in general moat dogs need that training and need it before its too late and if you cant fork the money up to pay for its training then youre really at a crossroad just like me. Thank you. I constantly hear the doggo team say, If he/she knew you had a dog coming in then they are selfish for wanting you to change and give up the dog. That statement alone is infuriating in so many ways. If you want to be with him youll have to compromise and so will he with regular baths, air fresheners, daily vacuum sessions even though it seems pointless, and boundaries until the dog is passes on. What do I do??? What should I do, I have know where to go and no money bc everything is in her name and bank account. Only commitment and effort (and prayer if youre a believer) will really work. The dogs were all rescued one at a time. Might I suggest you talk with someone outside of your situation and get their opinion. My bf refuses to train them, and it has worsened the quality of my life. Bf still makes attempts to pretend it was ME. Let me be clear he picked out the dog, it was his idea, and he was very emotional about it. I decided to just try it out.my bad mistake. He says Im the sick one being jealous of dog. One time she pooped on my daughters bed near her pillow. Its their HUMANS that I blame! I just changed my entire life for this man and dont want to lose him or my dog advice anyone ??? Like I was abusing the dog! I wish I could summon some self-righteous fury but Im not even angry Im just hurt, sad, and bitterly disappointed. We couldnt crate her at night because shed crap all over herself. There are no kill shelters, or maybe you can post pictures of the dog on social media and give him away to a loving home that will make the appropriate time to work on training him. i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! Need help with your relationship? Sometimes.its not the pet. So be prepared for big power struggles when it actually comes time to you wanting something to change. So we decided to take action and ask our landlord to have her live with us, the landlord said yes. When I am at his house the dog cant let us cuddle in front of TV before interacting with aggressiveness act , he is either wants to sit in the same sofa and not a separate sofa. Does your husband/boyfriend need to get rid of the dog? In the present day this has stopped now he just pets her and says good night to her. Sorry if this posted more than once, I had some trouble trying to post it. I met my husband when had his dog, a female chihuahua for a few years and I was okay with it and I actually bonded with the dog till I fell pregnant and then all of her annoying habits got to me. No. What is the glue that is holding them together? And most of them are not willing to put in the effort it takes to train, walk, and mentally stimulate them. The kids knock his dog bowl water out which I try to check as much as possible to refill and if partner comes home and sees water missing he gets mad with me Ive it basically saying Im neglecting his dog which makes me really angry. So Ive been dating this guy for almost 3 years now, I recently moved in with him. If your dog likes someone, they are usually good. It is annoying to the point of ruining my mood, even if it does only last a few minutes! Was paper love to do that, specifically the one who doesnt have a dog and is still interested in dogs. My boyfriend says its just a dog but to me my do is way more. It really is their loss. Because he hates dog hair even though whenever My dog did come to my boyfriends with me he would have to stay outside. She sits between your legs staring at you while you eat. I told her No! She is putting her family first, but still valuing her pets. Your wife needs to understand that first and foremost, hes a puppy, second, they have lots of energy and if the puppy is not being walked, and I mean a use the bathroom and now lets focus on a strong walk, he will chew more. What else is he intolerant of? when he went to look at the puppies before we got the dog i kept saying to him no dogs but he never listened , he is caged while we are at work and the other day he didnt lock him up and you guess it he had weeweed in 5 different places around the house. The dog is his world and Im just a person who lives with him. Its to the point where my husband cant stand looking at my dog. I dont get it, and even if he is spending time with me the dog just stands there and cries staring at him, so he always gets up and goes to he dog, leaving me. Choose wisely. I am torn with the relationship , I love the man but I dont what to do ? They are great dogs. Am going to move out. He still lived with his family. In fact, there is nothing wrong with that if you meet all the needs and wants. He would stop talking to me just to pick her up because she always wants him attention specially when he talks, gets close or even awknowledge me. The counselor said, it isnt you. She paws and scratches at my side of th bed all night. You have to find conpromise. The dog wont die if its not in the bed and eventually will GET IT that hes not to be in the bed in the first place. Your bf will never be that person. Hit the toilet and if you dont by accudent, clean it up. My husband got bored with him long ago and while he does the minimum walking and feeding, he shows him absolutely no affection whatsoever. And as I said, it is not her fault for being so sheddy and stinky. I love animals. And now I have no idea what happened. Our fighting is bad parenting in front of the dogs and we cant continue like this. Why do so many pet lovers refuse to see that. All this with the power of love. Okay this has cause so many arguments with my boyfriend and I and the kids Now his dog has come in heat and had to bring her in we went away for the weekend and the windows were tore up my curtains large piles of dog poo and pee everywhere and he yells and says I guess UR dog had no part in any of it!!! Your right.. Her dog came from a Romanian shelter and they wanted to kill her but she got saved. We got a puppy at the beginning of last summer and he had gotten quite large by now. I dont not give a monkey to be honest. If he continues to be a rude about the fur, you are incompatible. I feel like an asshole but surely its not normal to spend every waking minute with his dog especially when she never used to before.. am i overreacting or am i perfectly reasonable? Her ten year old is just the older Yorkie that is sick. Big dogs are messy and hairy and require even more care and exercise, but there are good dog hair vacuums and grooming helps a lot too. I was fooled into thinking that my boyfriend could have become more into pets in the aftermath of something he deems traumatic to himself. Any helpful advice please? She has about 7 years left of her life so this is a very big commitment. My brother-in-law once said, "My wife's priorities are: 1. He keeps going on about how the dog is older and has always been by his side, I seriously can never win! Im so pissed I want to take my dog and move out! Even after surgeries I have had, he has refused to take the dog out and I would have to with me barely able to move. He left his dog at his old house while we were still doing updates to list it (meanwhile he keeps telling me hes finding the dog a new home). Over the years Ive taken in three rescues that i got as puppies. Dont get me wrong, I love animals, but It just caused multiple fights between us. I do not sleep in the bed because of itching smell and the constant licking. this rat terriers was given a time out in a bedroom, closet or backyard when the barking started. Eventually i was allowed in the bed, but the dogs keep jumping on and off from the bed and they shed hair EVERYWHERE. My boyfriend felt that he couldnt give her to family friends bc he felt like it would be hard for the dog to switch families and he felt guilty. They cry & come & stare at me. I have spoken to her many times about my frustrations but she says I am overreacting and insensitive. Now it's almost a year later and I get up hours earlier than I have to to take the dog on a walk and do some training. Mind you this is a small dog who has lived in the house his whole life. I have been an asthmatic all my life and have many medications because of it. Oh, bringing the dog down to relieve itself is a pain as well. Your dogs behavior is destructive and potentially harmful given you have a small child. by the second day she barely barked. In his defence he never realised when we got together how important animals are to me, in fact I think it has increased once I knew we would never have a family. Your post reminds me of when we first got our dog and I was watching the show Its Me Or The Dog for training tips. The hair is floating everywhere and sticking to everything. lol. But I want to get your opinions, I want to know if how I feel is just insanity or am I being logical. He barked back as if he was getting murdered. One of each. , i love all of our dogs i dont want none too go away! me and my partner both had dogs before we got together , he had 5 me 2 . She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. I need advice please!!! It literally is her loss Jake. Jack Russells are not apartment dogs they were bred to be rodent catchers/farm animals ect. Am i in the wrong? I very seriously do not want to live with a dog but I also dont want to take anything away from my girlfriend. There is a deeper, underlying issue here. Ive given up so much for my wife so she could have this dog and I love her and she acknowledges it, but she doesnt seem to understand how much this has hurt me. You can love them and even have them live inside but they must be obedient and not treated like a human or hold precedence over them. Id volunteered to look after a friends puppy for them, a sweet 14 week old cocker/poodle cross. I dont want to come home to a house that is pissed and pooped and smells worse like a dog shelther and where I will have to be responsible for cleaning. Sometimes it just never happens at all. any suggestions on what to do!?!? Is there any hope for this relationship? I dont want to smell like dog and I dont want my furniture, sheets, or anything else to smell like dog. I knew ofcourse he had dogs, but it wasnt until I came to him for vacation when he proposed and I actually lived together with the dogs to see how bad it is. If he wants the dog gone, then respect his wishes as this decision was made without his input. She hardly barks and does not defecate or urinate in the home. Incorrect. I cried the entire time when I signed the dogs over. They must have hurt him because that is not how I raised him. Ive had people say that I dont truly love my dog because we dont allow him on the furniture, and Im like really? We dont want dog hair all on the couch and definitely not in the bed, so he sleeps in his own bed downstairs. Your husband/boyfriend may need to rehome the dog due to its biting behavior, peeing and pooping inside, heavy barking, destructiveness, allergies, health issues, heavy shedding, interrupting the relationship, high exercise requirements, financial matters, your priority to the dog, and puppy blues. Do dogs stick to mating with one partner, and one partner only till death do them part? My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog. Perhaps in many cases it is going to be easier to blame the pet than for him just to come right out and say that it is really you that is bugging him. The only way I see to rectify the situation is to return the dog. Just like it would be a mistake to get involved with someone with children who hates hates hates children.. the ex trains him and ex tells me to leave. Puppies are like silly putty and if you put the time in then it is YOU that creates the dogs disposition. Cant wear anything dark or I have fur on it. I truly Im not fan of this dog and I want him out the bed. I really do believe that people who treat there dogs like humans need counseling. Even though she knows to go outside shell go upstairs and pee or poop in the kids rooms or our bathroom. Do we need to find a compromise however? No amount of medical evidence is able to change his mind he is adamant. His comment killed me, i can love his dog instead . We have constant fights about it, especially when I try to discuss any sort of training with him. Drool xs 2! He wants him to be an outside dog when we get a house but I cant stand the idea. If your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog, the main reason could be puppy blues. When I have to go out of town I often have my mom watch her because I know if she is at home she will not be happy and wont do anything but sit in her crate, eat and go outside. I think a lot of the fanaticism has gone so deep now because a lot of the people cant deal with other people or person on their terms. They didnt sleep in bed with us, were not allowed on the couch, and did not beg and whine for food. My husband had this dog prior to us getting married. has involved marriage, a dog can not provide what her husband does. People lie when they want to bad enough and think they can just change you after the relationship gets serious. He lied about liking animals and expects me to comply with his demand of putting them in a shelter, or else. They do poop, pee & throw-up in the house which of course I clean up. This is real, hard, continuous effort and I believe that this is why some people give up on their human relationship and turn their efforts and affections towards animals. I am married 4 years and must admit that i have never had pets. One study found that the average dog causes 2,000 arguments in his or her lifetime. Dogs can have fleas or ticks even if you think they are properly cared for. Glad shes old as sad as that is to say because he loves her. The one you presented is simply the most popular. Yes I do. Im very attached to him. Pancho also gets sick about 1X every other month. If you endeavor with a strong mind, you will be able to turn this offensive dog into an affectionate, kind to kids, loving canine. Later the same day, I walked in the living room and watched him pick up her muzzle and plant his lips on the side of her face moving his head right to left and left to right, like a hard kiss of passion. Since then we have communicated about what it is that makes him upset1. And I actually have two cats, but they all must be kept separated, because my poor cats cannot tolerate the hyper energy of the dogs. I am over qualified for menial jobs whereas jobs that could fit my profile are not simply granted to immigrants if a Swedish-born citizen can take it. I did not want another dog. Each has a place for love in your life one animal one human..HELLO! Im trying to work things out but he ignores me. Life is about work and staying busy so I really feel Ive never had the time to get a dog or take time to care for one. 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